The Being Mode of Mind - dummies

By Shamash Alidina, Joelle Jane Marshall

Being mode is an uplifting and supportive state of mind that’s always available to you, even in the midst of busy activity. You can be in the middle of a very challenging time at work and still very aware of your physical, emotional and psychological state of mind — this state is being mode.

Here are six key qualities of the being mode of mind:

  • You’re connected with the present moment. When you’re in being mode, you’re mindful of the here and now. You’re not thinking about the past or the future. You’re living moment to moment, as best you can.

  • You’re non-striving. You’re less goal-oriented. You have less of a burning desire for situations to change. You accept how things are before moving to change anything. Being mode doesn’t mean being resigned to a less-than-ideal situation, it means active acceptance of the way things are at the moment.

    If you’re lost, the only way of getting anywhere is by knowing where you are to start with. Being mode is about acknowledging where you are.

  • You’re willing to approach difficulties instead of avoiding them. You’re willing to open up to painful and unpleasant sensations or emotions without trying to run away from them. You understand that avoiding an emotion just locks you into it more tightly.

  • Seeing thoughts as just thoughts, not necessarily facts. Through mindfulness, you become aware of your thoughts but don’t take every thought as an absolute truth. Just because you may have the thought ‘I’m useless’ or ‘I’m a failure’ doesn’t mean it’s true — it’s just a thought.

    You see that thoughts are just sounds and images in the mind, not necessarily true reality. Being mode is about awareness of thoughts and the ability to decide if they’re helpful or not.

  • You experience life through your senses. You experience life in a more sensory, direct way. If you feel annoyed, you actually feel the physical sensation within your body, perhaps as tightness of the muscles in your chest or belly. You’re better able to listen to people when they’re speaking to you. You see all the different elements in a room when you walk inside a building.

  • You act consciously rather than automatically. You’re aware of and pay attention to your experience in an intentional, conscious way rather than being unaware, automatic and habitual. You’re more awake to your moment-by-moment experience.

Write down what you notice when you carry out routine activities in being mode. To do this, follow the key qualities of being mode described in the previous list. Just do your best and see what happens.