How to Find Trust for Mindfulness Meditation - dummies

How to Find Trust for Mindfulness Meditation

Without a certain degree of trust, mindfulness meditation is challenging. This is because trust helps you to continue believing in the process of meditation when you feel that nothing’s happening, or something ‘wrong’ is happening.

For example, if you’re meditating and you suddenly feel bored, you need to trust that this is just another feeling, and that by continuing to practice meditation, that feeling may go away or may not. Or, you may find that by the end of a meditation, you feel a bit worse than when you started.

Without trust you won’t be able to see that this is just a temporary experience which, like all experiences, won’t last forever.

Trust takes time to develop in relationships. You can’t expect to meet people and immediately trust them. You need to see how they behave, what they say, and how they treat you and others. With time, with patience, trust grows. And with that growing trust, the relationships deepen, mature and become more meaningful. A relationship that lacks in trust has little beauty.

With trust comes warmth, friendship and a feeling of connection – you feel at ease and comfortable in a trusting relationship. Your relationship with meditation is similar. You may not trust in the process to begin with, but with patience and dedicated, regular practice, you may begin to trust it.

The more you trust in its power to heal and restore you, the more you relax into it, and allow meditation to happen to you, in a sense, rather than trying to do meditation. Meditation is an act of non-doing, or being, which arises out of the security of trust.

Here are some ways of building your trust:

  • Decide how long you’re going to try meditation for, and stick to it. So, if you want to try meditation for four weeks, for 20 minutes a day, just do it. Be prepared to find some days harder to practice than others, and begin to trust in the process.

  • If you’re scientifically minded, look up all the research on mindfulness and meditation. This may help to convince you to stick to the discipline.

  • If you know someone else who regularly practices meditation, ask her about her relationship with it. Consider meditating with her to help you.

  • Give meditation time. Be patient with it as far as you can, and your trust will naturally grow with time.

  • Try trusting your own experience, in the here and now. What is your intuition trying to tell you?