Demonstrating Confidence When You Speak - dummies

Demonstrating Confidence When You Speak

By Elizabeth Kuhnke

Part of Communication Skills For Dummies Cheat Sheet (UK Edition)

Research consistently proves that you don’t have to feel confident in order to act as if you are, and the more you act ‘as if’ the more confident you feel. Here’s how you do it:

  • Claim your space. Remind yourself that you have the right to be heard.

  • Move with purpose. Let go of fidgeting and meaningless movements. Steer clear of touching your face, playing with your hair, picking at your finger nails, or adjusting your clothing.

  • Look others in the eye when you speak, open your chest to fill your space and hold your head still.

  • Speak as if you mean what you’re saying. Grab hold of your consonants to project authority, pronounce your vowels clearly to carry the musicality of your message, and use language your listener can understand without having to refer to a dictionary.

  • Model the behavior of people who demonstrate confidence. By adjusting your stance, vocal tone and word of choice to match the people who display confidence, you come across as confident yourself.