Remembering That We Are Responsible for Our Feelings

Part of Counselling Skills For Dummies Cheat Sheet

We are each responsible for our own feelings. People react in different ways to the same events, so our reactions are not inevitable – they are the result of our history and tendencies. Other people do not make us feel particular emotions (although they may intend or try to).

Think of a recent emotional reaction that you didn’t like and reflect on it:

  • If you had a different reaction what kind of person would you be?

  • If you had a different reaction (think of one or two) how would the other person react to you and then what would happen?

  • Trace your original emotional reaction back to the earliest experience of it that you can remember and write about that event and ask yourself the previous two questions again.