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Exerting Enough Effort to Build Self-Esteem

By Rhena Branch, Rob Willson

Part of Boosting Self-Esteem For Dummies Cheat Sheet (UK Edition)

Building healthy self-esteem makes you sweat. Goals worth achieving take lots of dedication and hard work, and giving up is all too easy when the going gets tough. Keep exerting effort by reminding yourself to hold these kinds of motivational attitudes:

  • I can stand the pain and discomfort that comes with hard work. It may not be fun all the time but you can tolerate it if you choose to.

  • It’s worth it! You stand to gain a lot by remaining steadfast in your efforts to boost your self-esteem and achieve your goals. Focus on where you want to get to and the good stuff waiting for you when you arrive.

  • Boredom is bearable. Improving self-esteem often requires repeating the same helpful behaviours over and over again. Yes, it can be dull, but boredom is easier to bear when you imagine yourself reaching your goal as a result of persistence and repetition.

  • If there were an easier way I’d probably have found it by now. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can find a painless shortcut to your goals. Things worth doing almost always involve effort (and usually plenty of it).

  • I want results now but I can wait. As the saying goes, ‘Rome was not built in a day’. Quell your hurry-up instinct by remembering that most goals are reached through cumulative action. If you allow yourself to get impatient for results you may throw in the towel before you get a chance to see some.