How to Fight Fairly in Marriage - dummies

How to Fight Fairly in Marriage

By Markus Steffen, Sue Klavans Simring, Gene Busnar

Part of Making Marriage Work For Dummies Cheat Sheet

Accepting that you and your spouse will argue can help to strengthen the marriage, but only if you have the ability to fight fair. If a marital argument arises, use these tools to help resolve the conflict fairly and constructively:

  • Do be clear about what you want.

  • Do stick to the issues at hand.

  • Do look at both sides of the story.

  • Do listen more than you talk.

  • Do apologize when you’re wrong.

  • Don’t look for total victory.

  • Don’t prolong the argument.

  • Don’t nag or withdraw.

  • Don’t take the moral high ground.

  • Don’t go for the jugular.