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Where to Find Dates for People over 50

By Pepper Schwartz

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Dating for people over 50 used to be difficult. After you asked everyone you knew to fix you up, you still didn’t have a clear path. These days, however, because of longer and healthier lives, cultural shifts, and online dating, meeting people isn’t so difficult (although meeting the right person always takes a bit of time and resilience!).

Events targeted at single people over 50

Most cities have events that are specifically organized for single people. The nice part of these events or outings is that you’re going to something you’d enjoy anyhow.

It may be a bicycle trip, a wine tasting, a white-water rafting trip, or a series on foreign films, but the idea is that everyone who attends has a common interest, so you’ll have something to talk about when you meet someone who interests you. At the very worst, you’ll make new friends.

Meeting people over 50 in public places

As you go about your day, you’re constantly thrown together with new people, and some will be single and interesting. The hard part is getting to meet them because the only thing you have in common, to begin with, is being in the same place at the same time.

That’s why when you’re at a grocery store or post office, or at the train station or an airport, you have to keep your eyes peeled. Consider all these places an opportunity, but you have to look for it and seize the moment by being inquisitive, friendly, and approachable (or approaching!).

Online dating for people over 50

Online dating isn’t for everyone, but it’s where the people are. Millions of them, in fact. And the fastest-growing group among them is people over 50. Honestly, the choices are vast, and the chances of meeting someone you’d never meet any other way are high.

Furthermore, online dating is the only way you can preselect a large pool of possible dates according to age, interests, and values. It’s also the best place to go in terms of selecting people who are obviously interested in dating and available for a relationship (apart from the occasional jerk who’s really married, but those people are the exception to the rule).

You will need to learn how to write profiles, select quality people, and learn the art of 20-minute coffee introductions. They’re not really dates; instead, these are really auditions, so you need to treat them as a kind of speed-dating experience, not real dating. Still, superficial as these first meetings may be, they eventually put two people who should be in front of each other together, and then real dating commences.

Parties for people over 50

Younger people have parties all the time, but after 50, not so much. Still, parties, whether they’re fundraisers, political get-togethers, or large office celebrations, are a good time to meet people you don’t know.

It takes a bit of guts to introduce yourself to someone you don’t know at these large gatherings, and a naked fourth finger on the left hand doesn’t always tell you whether someone is single. Still, it’s worth going to these kinds of events because there are likely to be people there you don’t already know.

Hobby-related activities for people over 50

One of the best ways to meet people who share some of your passions is to meet them while you’re engaging in said activity. That may mean skiing, going to an art opening, or taking an evening class on film, history, or anything else that you love.

This way of meeting people is a long shot because there may not be any single people there besides yourself — or no single people who attract you — but if you do meet someone, it’s a great way to begin a relationship.

Try as many ways to meet people as you can. You never know which approach is going to pay off.