When you find that you’re avoiding important life events or opportunities as a result of your anxiety, it’s time to take action. By taking small steps to change your behavior, you can overcome anxiety-inducing situations. To begin, try the following:
- Analyze what you’re avoiding. - For example, if you’re afraid of social gatherings, think about every component of what you fear — talking, eating in front of others, the size of the crowd, losing control, and/or approaching other people. 
- Break your avoidance into little pieces. - For example, social gatherings come in all sizes and degrees of difficulty. 
- Rank those little pieces from least to most distressing. - You may not feel anxious about family gatherings, but the company picnic arouses a little more anxiety, and a party with people you don’t know well terrifies you. 
- Take small steps and conquer each one of the steps before moving on. - Any discomfort you feel at each step will soon pass if you give remain in the situation for a while. 



