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Ground Rules for a Family Meeting about Eldercare

By Rachelle Zukerman

Part of Eldercare For Dummies Cheat Sheet

If your family is faced with getting or continuing care for an elderly loved one, a family meeting can be productive in airing issues and concerns and brainstorming solutions. Tips on running a fruitful family conference include those in the following list:

  • Don’t speak for others by saying “we think” or “my family thinks.”

  • Take responsibility for your own opinion or viewpoint by saying, “I think,” “I believe,” “I understand,” and so on.

  • Don’t interrupt anyone.

  • Encourage everyone (from the youngest to the oldest, from the shyest to the boldest) to express his or her opinion.

  • Choose a facilitator (for example, the oldest, most respected person).

  • Encourage family members to share their feelings by accepting all sentiments.

  • Don’t allow blaming and criticizing.

  • Stop verbal attacks dead in their tracks.