Aggression Do’s and Don’ts
Part of the Anger Management For Dummies Cheat Sheet
Aggression differs from anger because aggressive behavior is intended to inflict harm on others. Follow these rules to harness your aggression and use your energy in a more productive manner:
Do be competitive. All successful people are competitive. The trick is to know when and how.
Don’t be confrontational. You won’t accomplish everything you want in life with a hostile, in-your-face attitude. People typically avoid confrontation, so they end up avoiding you.
Do be forceful in pursing goals. Passion and drive are what fuel success. It’s not enough to be achievement-oriented, you have to be achievement-driven.
Don’t be too intense. Don’t overpower those around you. It’s exhausting — for you and for them.
Do be persistent in getting what you want out of life. When you start something, stick with it. Don’t allow anger to distract you from your objective or cause you to give up prematurely.
Don’t be impatient. Give people a chance to work with you on solving a problem. Let time be your ally not your enemy. Never be afraid to step away from a challenge in order to achieve a better perspective.
Do be direct in your communication. Let people know how you feel about things — big and little. Don’t leave it up to them to figure out if you’re angry and why. And don’t say you’re fine when you’re not.
Don’t be demanding. People are more cooperative and less defensive if you ask them to do something instead of ordering them around.
Do be a determined person. That means having resolve and being unwavering in what you say and do. Determination is a trait people admire.
Don’t be domineering. Don’t beat others over the head with your opinions and ideas. Don’t always think you have to have the last word. Stop interrupting and try being more of an active listener.