Jann Blackstone

Jann Blackstone, PsyD, is a retired Superior Court Child Custody Recommending Counselor (mediator), cur­rently in private practice, who specializes in conflict resolution and cooperative co-parenting. She is the founder of Bonus Families, a nonprofit supporting separated parents in their effort to co-parent, and author of Ex-Etiquette for Parents, The Bonus Family Handbook, and Co-Parenting For Dummies.

Articles & Books From Jann Blackstone

Co-Parenting For Dummies
Real world strategies to co-parent like a pro Co-Parenting For Dummies shows you how to build a rock-solid foundation for your kids, no matter what your relationship looks like right now. You'll discover proven approaches that actually work in the messy, complicated world of real life—all centered on improving communication between co-parents and working together instead of against each other.
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Cheat Sheet / Updated 06-08-2026
Co-parenting works best when expectations are clear long before disagreements arise. Most conflicts between co-parents aren't caused by bad intentions—they happen when nothing has been decided in advance, leaving every decision to feel urgent and every disagreement to feel personal. The solution is structure. By putting a few key agreements in place early, from communication plans and conflict resolution strategies to financial boundaries and emergency decision plans, you create guardrails that keep your co-parenting relationship steady and shield your children from unnecessary tension.
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This article introduces ten rules of good ex etiquette and explains why good behavior matters so much. Relying on these rules helps parents make well-balanced decisions even in the most stressful situations. Put the children firstThe cornerstone of this list is to put the children first. When you truly do that, decision-making becomes surprisingly clear.