How to Help Someone Who’s Grieving - dummies

How to Help Someone Who’s Grieving

By Greg Harvey

Part of Grieving For Dummies Cheat Sheet

There is no perfect manual that can give you a step-by-step set of instructions for how to help a loved one grieve a loss. However, there are a few general rules that may help guide you along the way.

If you really want to support a friend or family member in grieving the loss of a loved one, stick to these dos and don’ts:

  • Do listen to him as openly as you can.

  • Do speak to him from your heart.

  • Do tell him how sorry you are.

  • Do remind him regularly that he’s not going crazy and that one day this pain will end.

  • Don’t try to take his grief away

  • Don’t try to comfort him with platitudes about grief.

  • Don’t try to hurry his grieving process along to suit your timetable.

  • Don’t try to persuade him to make changes before he’s ready to make them.

  • Don’t judge him and his ups and downs too harshly.

  • Don’t give up on him and your friendship.