Acting ‘As If’ to Become the Person You Want to Be

By Elizabeth Kuhnke

Part of Body Language For Dummies Cheat Sheet

You don’t have to be an actor to act ‘as if’. You just have to act ‘as if’ you are. The more you act ‘as if’ you are that person, the more you become that person.

Below are a few tips for getting you started on the path of becoming the person you long to be.

  1. Begin by asking yourself, ‘What do people in control do? What behaviors do they demonstrate? What do they say?’

    If you can identify the behaviors and replicate them yourself, you can convince anyone who’s watching that you are what you say you are.

  2. If you were acting as if you were the person you would like to be, how would you be acting? If you could see a film of your life, what would be different?

  3. If a good friend were to see you several months from now and you were more like the person you want to be, what would this person see you doing differently?

  4. What might some initial indicators be that would demonstrate that you are headed in the right direction?

  5. If you want to come across as a person in control, the one to turn to when all else fails, the one you can count on to get the job done, you have to act ‘as if’ you were that person.

Once you have the answers to those questions, you’re well on your way to being the person you want to be.