Solutions to Critical Conversation Problems at a Glance - dummies

Solutions to Critical Conversation Problems at a Glance

By Christina Tangora Schlachter

Part of Critical Conversations For Dummies Cheat Sheet

Critical conversations are not just about what you should do during the discussion. Unfortunately, poor attitudes and stressed relationships show up again and again during conversations. Even the best critical conversation can include its share of problems. This table shows a few solutions to some of the more common pitfalls.

Problem Solution Examples
One-sided conversation Acknowledge the behavior and then redirect the
“Thanks for that information Kathy. I know many things can
get in the way of getting work done, so let’s come up with a
plan for how to remove the three main barriers you talked about
[acknowledge what was said]. More could come up, but I recommend we
start with these three. What do you see as some potential solutions
[redirect the conversation to the next step]?”
Distracted audience Ask questions about what is happening.

Be respectful.

Help people think.

“Ted, you look confused. Is there a part of the goal would
be helpful for me to go over in more depth?”

“Sue, I see you are spending lots of time on your phone during
meetings. I know everyone is busy. Is there anything I can do to
help you be part of the conversation?”

“Dan, I would love to hear your opinion. What are your ideas
on how to solve the problem?”

A lack of trust Trust builder #1: Give meaningful feedback.

Trust builder #2: Be authentic

Trust builder #3: Speak now.

Trust builder #4: Keep commitments.

“I plan on researching more about the issue, and will give
you an update in next Monday.”

“I honestly don’t know the answer, but I am happy to try
to find the solution.”

“Are you open to feedback about the meeting this

Not heading in the same direction Be clear on goals.

Identify motivations.

“It seems like we may not be in agreement on the
expectations of the job. Would you be willing to talk about what
you feel is most important to the job and your