Lack of sexual desire, or low libido, can affect men and women. Low libido isn't just a “slump,” but a continued lack of desire to have sex for a period of time. What causes low male libido ranges from emotional distress to physical problems. The best way to treat the lack of sexual desire is to see a doctor. A medical doctor can rule out physical factors whereas a sex therapist or marriage counselor can treat psychological factors.
One of the most common causes of low male libido these days is stress. You come home late every night from work, or you’ve lost your job, or whatever, and sex is the last thing on your mind. If your partner is amorous and then starts to complain about being rejected, you become even tenser and want to have sex even less. A vicious cycle builds up, and your sex life can deteriorate down to nothing.
Can you fix a problem such as this by yourself? Maybe, but it’s not easy. One of the components of this problem is usually a lack of communication. And breaking down the barriers that have been set up can be very hard to do. A good recommendation is to visit a sex therapist or marriage counselor.
Some of the causes of loss of sexual desire aren’t emotional but physical. For example, testicular and prostate cancers can both affect the libido. A good sex therapist always asks that the man see a medical doctor first to rule out any medical problems.