Although multiple sclerosis (MS) can cause you to have even more stress than the average worker stress is an inevitable product of nearly any job. Just remember that even if your job is incredibly stressful, it probably still provides you with income, interesting challenges, enjoyable relationships with co-workers, and, if you’re lucky, health insurance. Not a bad trade-off.

So, if you decide that keeping your job is a good thing, you have to identify the particular aspects of your job that cause you stress (and then determine whether you can actually control the stress and how). Perhaps your boss is a pain, the nine-to-five schedule is grueling given your fatigue level, and your office is about a zillion miles from the nearest bathroom.

Chances are you can’t do a whole lot about your boss, so don’t spend your energy thinking about him or her. On the other hand, you know that some people in the office are taking advantage of flextime and even working from home some days. And you think that one of the offices closer to the bathroom may be opening up soon.

So, you could talk to your boss (charmingly, of course) about accommodations that may make your work life a little less stressful. In other words, the goal is to zero in on the things that you may be able to change instead of wasting energy on those that you can’t.