Taking Care of Yourself as a Counsellor
Part of the Counselling Skills For Dummies Cheat Sheet
When faced with a tricky situation whilst using your counselling skills, refer to the helpful tips below. It is very important to remember to take:
A deep breath.
Your time. Pauses and silences are always shorter than you think.
A different tack from questions. Questions give you the agenda and responsibility – try giving the agenda and responsibility back to the help-seeker.
Note of emotion words and reflect them back with more weight.
Note of feelings, thinking, and behaviour and summarise them.
Courage to be honest (as long as it’s in the help-seeker’s best interest). Admit you don’t know what to do, don’t know what to say, feel muddled, and so on.
Summaries seriously. Don’t underestimate the usefulness of summarising.
Time to consult others and to reflect on the situation.