Perimenopause: Easing the Transition from Menstruation to Menopause
Menstruation and menopause are well-known biological milestones in a female’s life. Contrary to popular thinking, menopause is not the period of months or years when a woman is going through the change. This timeframe is called perimenopause.
Menopause is an actual date in time. Specifically, it’s the 12-month anniversary of a woman’s last menstrual period. When that day arrives, a woman has reached menopause.
During perimenopause, a woman’s ovaries begin to slow down in preparation for the day when there are no more eggs left to release. The process, which can take last anywhere from a year or two to nearly a decade, causes erratic fluctuations in the levels of estrogen and progesterone. This hormonal instability is the cause of many of the physiological changes midlife women experience.
Common perimenopause symptoms include irregular periods, hot flashes, mood swings, insomnia, and vaginal dryness. Some women glide through perimenopause with hardly a symptom. Other women are plagued by a mountain of misery. Most fall somewhere in between. Whether your change of life is great or small, here are some remedies to consider that can help make the transition easier.
Oral contraceptives: Nearly 90 percent of perimenopausal women experience a change in their menstrual cycle. Periods can become heavier or lighter, more or less frequent, and longer or shorter in duration. Oral contraceptives can provide just enough additional hormones to regulate periods. Additionally, the use of oral contraceptives has been shown to reduce hot flashes and lessen vaginal dryness.
Progestin therapy: For women who don’t want to take oral contraceptives but are most concerned with stabilizing their menstrual cycle, progestin is a viable alternative. This synthetic form of progesterone can lighten heavy periods. However, progestin alone won’t relieve hot flashes or vaginal dryness.
Endometrial ablation: Women suffering from very heavy or frequent periods can also consider endometrial ablation. This procedure actually destroys the lining of the uterus so that period flow is either lessened or eliminated.
If you’re periods have become very heavy, last more than a week, or occur more than every three weeks, you can’t assume it’s perimenopause. You need to talk with your doctor to rule out the possibility that your abnormal bleeding is caused by a disease or illness.
Vaginal lubricants: The natural drop in estrogen levels during perimenopause can cause uncomfortable vaginal dryness and interfere with sexual pleasure. Supplementing the body’s waning level of estrogen with oral contraceptives can help, but there are also many vaginal lubricants on the market. These come in water soluble, gel, and even vaginal suppository forms and can be readily purchased at drug, grocery, and discount department store chains.
Diet: If you’re among the 75 percent of perimenopausal women who experience hot flashes, you may want to take note of what you ate or drank before the hot flash occurred. Alcohol and caffeine are known triggers. Hot beverages and spicy foods are also thought to be instigators.
In addition, our metabolism slows as we age, which is why so many women in perimenopause start to put on extra pounds. Middle age women who want to make sure they look and feel their best in spite of their changing hormones, need to eat a healthy diet low in animal fats and high in whole grains, vegetables, and fruits. Poor diet has been linked to many diseases that tend to develop in middle age, including heart disease, high blood pressure, and cancer.
Exercise: Midlife women can’t get enough of this good cardiovascular stuff. Thirty minutes of moderate cardio exercise, such as walking or bicycling, on most days of the week can help ease perimenopausal insomnia and mood swings. Less strenuous activities such as yoga or Tai Chi help relieve the stress that can exacerbate sleep and mood disturbances.
Antidepressants/Therapy: Although midlife hormone changes don’t cause depression, women who have a history of depressive episodes may find their depression returns with perimenopause. If so, it’s important for the woman to talk with her doctor about the possibility of taking antidepressants to relieve her symptoms.
Also, perimenopause can coincide with a lot of changes in a woman’s life that have nothing to do with hormones. Aging parents, children leaving home, later-in-life pregnancy, divorce, remarriage, and career change are some of the many stressors that come with the onset of middle age. A woman may find she needs the help of a therapist to navigate through the many transitions that are a natural part of growing older.
Wardrobe changes: Some women experience hot flashes that come on with such ferocity they find themselves drenched in sweat. Any woman plagued by these soakings should consider switching to breathable, lose fitting, lighter weight clothing that’s made of absorbent fibers like cotton. This can be especially important at bedtime if the woman is prone to hot flashes during sleep (commonly called night sweats).
Once a woman reaches menopause, most perimenopause symptoms will subside.

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abortion
The termination of a pregnancy by the loss or destruction of the fetus before it has reached viability.

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adolescence
The period of life, usually around ages 11–16, wherein the brain triggers hormonal changes leading to adulthood (both physically and psychologically).

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anorgasmia
The inability to have an orgasm.

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anticipatory anxiety
When the fear or expectation of a possible failure causes an actual failure; a common cause of short-term impotence.

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autoimmune deficiency syndrome; AIDS
Sexually transmitted disease; extremely deadly; not curable.

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basal body temperature method
Natural family planning method of birth control that uses the woman’s daily body temperature to determine when a woman is ovulating and therefore fertile.

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benign prostatic hypertrophy
A medical condition in which a man’s prostate gland becomes enlarged, which causes frequent urination; this condition is common with age, is not dangerous, and may be treated with medication or surgery.

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bi-curious
A state of interest in sex with members of both sexes in order to determine one’s sexual orientation.

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bisexuality
When men or women are sexually attracted only to members of both sexes.

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calendar method; fertility awareness method; rhythm method
Natural family planning method of birth control that relies on abstinence during the time of month when the woman is fertile and likely to become pregnant.

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candidiasis; yeast infection
Fungal infection that is sometimes spread to the genitals through sexual contact (usually oral sex).

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cervical cap
Barrier method of birth control using a small cap that fits tightly over the cervix, blocking sperm from entrance.

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cervical mucus method
Natural family planning method of birth control that uses the consistency of the woman’s cervical mucus to determine when a woman is ovulating and therefore fertile.

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cervix
The entrance to the uterus in a female’s anatomy.

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chlamydia
Most common sexually transmitted disease in the United States; hard to diagnose but treatable.

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circumcision
The surgical removal of the penis foreskin.

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climacteric
Period of change when a woman goes through menopause, usually lasting one to two years.

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clitoris
Part of the female genitalia, found within the vulva and the principal organ of female sexual pleasure.

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condom
Barrier method of birth control using a sheath that fits over the penis; the best method of protection against sexually transmitted diseases.

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contraception; birth control
The effort to avoid unintended pregnancy via a variety of methods; does not necessarily protect against sexually transmitted disease.

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corpus cavernosa
Two spongelike cylindrical tubes that contain the central arteries and lie on the top half of the penis.

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corpus spongiosum
A spongelike structure under the two corpus cavernosa that surrounds the urethra and is the pipeline for both urine and sperm.

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crus
The penis that is under the skin and not exposed; the proportion of crus to exposed penis is what results in curvature in an erect penis.

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cunnilingus
Oral-vaginal sex.

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Depo-Provera
Hormonal method of birth control taken via injection.

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detumescence
After a man ejaculates or if his arousal fades, detumescence occurs, in which the brain sends a signal to allow the blood to leave the erect penis, and it returns to its flaccid state.

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diaphragm
Barrier method of birth control using a shallow, dome-shaped cup that blocks the whole rear part of the vagina, including the cervix, from sperm.

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dildo
A phallic (penis-shaped) object that you insert into your vagina to simulate the feelings that you would get from a real penis.

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ejaculation
When a man emits sperm from his penis as a result of orgasm.

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epididymis
A lumpy section that lies on top of the testicle.

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epididymitis
An infection of the epididymis gland; easily diagnosed by a doctor and treated with antibiotics.

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erect
Stiff and hard, generally referring to a penis during a state of arousal.

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erectile dysfunction; ED
Physical or psychological condition when a man is unable to have an erection (varying degrees of severity).

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erection
A penis that is in a state of arousal, becoming stiff and hard.

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estrogen
A female hormone; plays a key role in triggering the process needed to create a baby; no longer produced after menopause.

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female-superior position
Common sexual position, wherein the woman lies on top and the man lies on bottom.

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foreskin
A sheath of skin that surrounds the glans at birth and opens at the top; may be surgically removed in a process known as circumcision.

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frenum
The strip of skin connecting the glans to the shaft on the underside of the penis.

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frottage
The practice of two men rubbing their bodies against each other, usually until climax; considered a safe form of homosexual activity.

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full laparotomy
Form of female sterilization involving major surgery; see tubal ligation.

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genital warts; human papillomavirus; HPV
Sexually transmitted disease; sometimes linked with cervical cancer; not curable but a vaccine exists.

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glans
The head of the penis.

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gonorrhea
Sexually transmitted disease; curable with medication.

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group masturbation; circle jerk
Mutual masturbation in a group, wherein each person uses masturbation methods to sexually pleasure a different person.

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Hepatitis B
Sexually transmitted disease; not curable but a vaccine exists.

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herpes
Sexually transmitted disease; extremely contagious and can be spread through intimate contact (kissing, etc.) as well as sexual intercourse; not curable.

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heterosexuality
When men or women are sexually attracted only to others of the opposite sex from themselves.

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homosexuality
When men or women are sexually attracted only to others of the same sex as themselves.

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hormone replacement therapy; HRT
Medical treatment for menopause in which estrogen (which is no longer produced by the body) is prescribed to alleviate symptoms; studies vary on safety of HRT.

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hot flash
A sudden feeling of heat that takes over the entire body, common during menopause and perimenopause.

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human immunodeficiency virus; HIV
Sexually transmitted virus that is linked to autoimmune deficiency syndrome (AIDS).

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hysterectomy
The surgical removal of the uterus; results in sterilization but usually done to correct a medical problem.

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Implanon
Hormonal method of birth control that uses a small rod that is implanted into a woman’s arm, effective for three years.

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impotency
Physical or psychological condition when a man can’t have an erection when he wants one.

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intrauterine device; IUD
Method of birth control that implants a small device into the uterus, using either hormones or copper to prevent pregnancy.

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laparoscopy
Common form of female sterilization done using a small instrument inserted through a small incision; see tubal ligation.

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libido
The desire to have sex.

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masturbation
Sexually pleasuring oneself without the aid of another person.

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meatus
The opening of the glans.

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menarche
A girl’s first menstrual period.

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menopause
The period of time when a woman goes through the changes associated with the end of her egg supply (including the end of menstruation and of producing female hormones); also known as the change of life.

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menstruation; menstrual cycle
The monthly process of releasing eggs in preparation for possible pregnancy in a female’s body.

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mini-laparoscopy
Common form of female sterilization done using a small instrument inserted through a small incision within 48 hours of giving birth; see tubal ligation.

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missed orgasm
When the body goes through all the physical manifestations of an orgasm but the woman doesn’t really feel it.

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missionary position; male-superior position
Most common sexual position, wherein the woman lies on bottom and the man lies on top while facing her.

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Molluscum contagiosum
Sexually transmitted virus; treatable.

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mons pubis; mons veneris
A layer of fatty tissue that lies above the female’s pubic bone.

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mutual masturbation
Using masturbation methods on a sexual partner, usually to climax; often done in lieu of sexual intercourse.

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natural family planning
Birth control method that relies on timed abstinence without other contraceptives.

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nocturnal penile tumescence
Erection during REM or dream sleep; common in a healthy man’s sleep patterns and not necessarily related to erotic dreams.

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NuvaRing
Hormonal method of birth control that uses a small, flexible ring inserted into the woman’s vagina.

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orgasm
An intense feeling of physical pleasure, experienced as the culmination of sexual stimulation.

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ovulation
Process in which a woman’s ovaries release and egg, allowing for fertilization.

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the Patch; Ortho Evra
Hormonal method of birth control applied directly to a woman’s skin via an adhesive patch.

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pedophile
A person who wants to have sex with children and young adults.

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pelvic inflammatory disease; PID
A genital infection in a woman that has spread into the deeper organs of her reproductive system, including the uterus, fallopian tubes, or the structures around the ovaries; not technically an STD but may be a consequence of an STD, usually either gonorrhea or chlamydia; can lead to serious consequences if not treated in time.

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perimenopause
Period of life preceding menopause, experienced when a woman’s ovaries become resistant to follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) and the body reacts with a spike in estrogen; usually lasts about four years but may last anywhere from a few months to 15 years.

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perineum
The area between the genital organ and the anus.

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Peyronie’s disease
Medical condition in which the erect penis curves or bends sharply to one side such that sex may be impossible.

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the Pill
Hormonal method of birth control taken orally, available under many names.

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premonitory sensation
The feeling that a man gets just before he reaches the point of no return before orgasm/ejaculation, also called "the moment of inevitability."

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priapism
Medical condition in which a man suffers from a permanent erection.

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progesterone
A female hormone; plays a key role in triggering the process needed to create a baby; no longer produced after menopause.

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prostate gland; prostate
The prostate gland, located below the man’s bladder, produces some of the fluids that are contained in the semen, giving semen its whitish color.

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psychogenic erection
An erection caused by an external, non-immediate stimulus that trigger the brain to release hormones that cause an erection.

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pubic lice; crabs
Lice that live in the pubic area, and whose bites cause intense itching; visible to the naked eye; treatable with over-the-counter medication.

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pubococcygeus muscles; PC muscles
The set of muscles in the genital area that incurs the most contractions during orgasm; found in both men and women.

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retarded ejaculation; male orgasmic disorder
Medical condition in which a man cannot make himself ejaculate.

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retrograde ejaculation
Condition such that, during ejaculation, the semen flows backwards into the bladder instead of out of the penis.

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scrotum
The sac of skin at the base of the penis that holds the testicles (once descended).

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sexual orientation
The statement of what gender (same, opposite, or both) a person is attracted to: homosexual, heterosexual, etc.

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sexually transmitted disease; STD; sexually transmitted infection; STI
Any disease or infection that can be transmitted via sexual intercourse.

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smegma
Cottage cheese-like substance that can form under an uncircumsised foreskin due to the combination of excretions and dead skin cells; if not cleaned, can lead to infection.

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sonogram
A picture of a fetus taken in utero and made by sound waves.

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spermicide
Chemical that kills sperm, generally applied topically before sexual intercourse as a contraceptive.

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sterilization
Permanent method of preventing unintended pregnancy via surgery; either vasectomy (male) or tubal sterilization (women).

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syphilis
A potentially deadly STD that can be hard to diagnose because it mimics other diseases (starting with canchres); can be transmitted through any intimate contact; treatable in most stages.

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testicles; testes
Part of the male genitals.

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testicular torsion
A severe and painful medical condition in which the testicle gets twisted around inside the scrotum and blood no longer flows into it; requires immediate attention.

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transurethral resection of the prostate; TURP
Most common form of surgery for an enlarged prostate; common side effects include erectile dysfunction and retrograde ejaculation.

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tribadism
The practice of two women rubbing their genitals together while lying one on top of the other.

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trichomoniasis; trich
Sexually transmitted disease; curable with medication.

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tubal ligation
Contraceptive method in which a woman undergoes sterilization via surgery of the fallopian tubes.

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urologist
A medical doctor who specializes in the care of the genitourinary tract, the urinary tract in men and women, and the male genital tract.

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uterus
Uhe muscular, female organ where a fertilized egg develops.

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vagina
Part of the female genitals; a hollow, muscular tube that extends from the external opening to the cervix.

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vaginismus
A condition in which a woman’s vaginal muscles involuntarily tighten up to the point where penetration by the man’s penis is painful or sometimes even impossible.

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vaginitis
Sexually transmitted disease; curable with medication.

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vas deferens
Part of the male sexual organs; the tubes that carry sperm.

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vasectomy
Contraceptive method in which a man undergoes sterilization via surgery of the vas deferens.

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vibrator
Sexual device that provides clitoral stimulation for a woman.

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vulva
The part of the female genitals that one can see; lies between the mons pubis and the anus. The outer lips are called the labia majora; the inner lips are called the labia minora.