Making Arrangements for Euthanizing Your Senior Dog

Euthanizing a beloved senior dog is probably the most traumatic experience you'll ever face in your time with her. Because you loved your senior well, you can't avoid the pain that comes with such a loss. But the fact that such losses are painful doesn't mean you also must subject yourself — or your dog — to unnecessary indignities.

When you and your senior arrive at your vet's for the euthanasia appointment, you don't want to be sitting out in the waiting room at the vet's office with a lot of other owners around. You don't want your pet to freak out the way she usually does when she visits the vet. And you certainly don't want to have to figure out how to pay the bill afterward, when your shock and grief may feel overwhelming.

With a little planning, you can avoid much of the stress, if not the pain, of having to say goodbye to your senior. Here are some helpful ideas.

Finding the right place

Determine where the euthanasia will take place well before the procedure. Basically, you have two options: having your senior euthanized at home or having your senior euthanized at your vet's office.

Advantages and disadvantages of euthanizing at home

Many owners want their senior dogs to take their last breaths at home. These owners believe that an at-home euthanasia is less stressful for their seniors because they don't hear the sounds or smell the odors that they would encounter at an animal hospital.

Euthanizing your senior at home is a good option if your dog is too large or too ill for you to transport easily to a veterinary clinic. Ending your dog's life at home also allows you to control the environment in which your dog passes away: You can give your senior all the creature comforts you want. And if you euthanize your dog at home, you don't have to face a bunch of strangers in a waiting room.

One final advantage of putting a senior dog to sleep at home is that the other pets in the family can see the dog's body, and thus come to terms with his death. Seeing the body gives your other pets the closure they need. Many experts contend that without having this opportunity, other pets in the family may search endlessly for the deceased dog and even suffer symptoms of depression, such as appetite loss and lethargy.

However, at-home euthanasia also has some disadvantages. One disadvantage is that your regular vet may not make house calls. If euthanizing at home is important to you, you need to find a vet who can perform the procedure in your home, and that's an issue you may not want to grapple with right now.

To find a vet who will euthanize your dog at your home, the American Association of Housecall Veterinarians has a searchable database that will help you locate a house-call vet in your area.

Another possible downside to euthanizing your senior at home is how you may feel afterward. In the days immediately following your dog's passing, you may have a hard time entering or even walking past the room where his death occurred.

Advantages and disadvantages of euthanizing at a veterinary clinic

Euthanizing your senior at your local veterinary clinic offers at least two important advantages: It allows your home to remain a much-needed refuge for you and your family as you come to terms with your dog's death, and a vet you know and trust performs the procedure.

The disadvantages are clear: lack of privacy for you and your family in your time of grief, lack of creature comforts for your senior dog, and the inability to control the proceedings. However, you can overcome those challenges and other potential problems with just a little forethought. Here's how:

  • Bring your home to the vet. Bring something from home to help your senior dog stay calm and feel comforted before and during the procedure. One item could be the dog's bed. She would feel its familiar cushiness and smell the odors she knew as she passed away.
    If your dog's bed is too big to bring to the vet's, consider bringing a favorite toy or an unlaundered T-shirt that you've worn. The familiar object and smell will comfort your dog — and you — during the procedure.
  • Pay beforehand. Ask your vet if you can pay the bill before you bring your senior in for the procedure. Most clinics gladly accept your payment hours or even days before your dog is euthanized. Paying beforehand eliminates the stress that would result if you had to pay the bill immediately after the procedure or the pain caused by getting the bill in the mail after your dog's death.
  • Ease your senior's stress. If your senior dog gets upset when she goes to the vet's office, find a way to make her journey less stressful. Your vet can prescribe a mild tranquilizer that you can give your dog an hour or two before the appointment. A tranquilizer will help your senior relax and travel with more ease than she normally does.
  • Book the appointment for the end of the day. Try to book the very last appointment of the day for your senior's euthanasia. At day's end, your vet won't need to rush off to the next appointment, so he can spend time with you and your dog.
  • Ask for privacy. When you make your appointment or stop by to pay the bill before the procedure, ask the receptionist if you and your dog can use a separate entrance to the clinic. If there is a separate entrance, you and your senior won't have to walk through and wait in the public reception area amid a bunch of human and canine strangers.

Deciding whether to stay or not

Deciding if you want to stay with your dog while he's being euthanized is highly personal. Many people choose to stay with their senior dogs in order to comfort the animals and to provide themselves some closure. Some people may feel comforted in knowing that his or her face was the last thing a beloved pet saw.

However, witnessing the procedure may not be good for you if you're not prepared for what may happen during your senior's euthanasia. The tremors that may occur after death, the voiding of the bowels and bladder, and a dog's vocalization during the procedure can all unnerve an already traumatized owner.

Find out what you can about the process and try to be objective as you consider whether to stay or go. If you fear that you'll lose control, reconsider sticking around. A sobbing, wailing owner will only frighten the dog and make the vet's job that much tougher. If you opt to leave, rest assured that your dog will pass away remembering your love and feeling the gentle touch of your vet's hand.

The question of whether children should witness a dog's euthanasia is problematic. Many vets advise against allowing a child under the age of 10 to see the dog die; vets contend that seeing a beloved dog's death may traumatize a young child. On the other hand, an older child or teenager may want to be with the dog when she's euthanized. As long as your vet is okay with the child's presence, let your child decide; don't try to force him to choose either way.

Don't assume that euthanizing your dog at the veterinary clinic means that your other pets can't be there. Ask your vet whether the other canine pack members can be there. Your vet may consent, especially if you bring the dogs in to see your senior's body after the procedure rather than be there while the euthanasia takes place.

Comments (21)

  1. Posted by Karen Duffy
    I just recently had to get our greatly loved Border Collie euthanized.I went into the vets expecting she would be first anesthetized and in my grief did not realize,until it was already happening,that she was not.I highly reccomend that if you must go through this,you discuss this issue first with your vet.My last moments with my pet were traumatic and scary.It should not have been like this.
  2. Posted by Dee Smyth
    I'm sorry that your experience was more tramatizing than need be. I had to put a beloved chihuahua to sleep a few years ago and the vet did anestheize him first along with explaining what to expect step by step. I'm now facing the possibility of having to put down his daughter who is the most beautiful,comical rascal I've ever had the pleasure of knowing,I cry as I write this!I just want you to know that I feel for you and understand.
  3. Posted by Trisha Wagner
    I found this post informing and appreciate the comment from Karen. We are having our dog put to sleep this coming Thursday, she has been with us since a puppy and is very much loved. I am glad I have time to inquire about this before the procedure. Thanks.
  4. Posted by A.Harper
    I truely feel for you all. Here you have great dogs who lived great lives. I have a 7 year old pit bull who has had dog aggression issues and has bit my children at least one time each. Two weeks ago he bit my five year old because she hit him for eating her food. SHe had to have 18 stitches. I still, after all of this, am having a hard time making the decision to euthanize. Even with a vet and numerous people from Pit Bull rescues telling me I HAVE to euhanize immediately. I am so sorry for all of your losses and I just hope to get through this.
  5. Posted by Loretta
    I had my beloved German Shepherd of 13 years put to rest this morning. I had him since he was 9 weeks old. There is nothing worse than a broken heart. I know since I have one. I could not stay in the room, however, I really trust and like my vet which makes a hugh difference. R.I.P Joe....I will always love you.
  6. Posted by Sam
    We are grappling with the decision to euthanize our beloved 15.5yr old poodle. She will be turning 16 in September..Just 2 days ago she suffered what we believed to have either been a heart attack or seizure..We rushed her to the vet who checked her heart and advised us that her heart is enlarged (via xrays), trachea compromised, difficulty breathing, loss of bladder control, and fluid around lungs and heart... I would like to honor our "baby" by putting her out of her misery asap, but my hubby is still too attached to let go..I'm upset about the thought of keeping her alive when we know she is suffering.. How do I get him to let her go without being blamed down the line for letting her go to soon? Help
  7. Posted by Maureen
    Having to euthanize your pet has to be one of the hardest things to do as a responsible pet owner. To be able to put your pet out of it suffering is the last responsible act you can do for your pet. I have always found it better to stay with my pets when they have been euthanized. The first pet I ever had euthanized years ago I did not stay with her and I never felt right about that - it was like I had abandoned her in her time of need. http://traineddogsrule.com/blog
  8. Posted by Paul
    I had to euthanize to my beloved 13.5 year old German Shepherd Chester last week. He went very peacefully with no sedative given or needed. Remember to take the collar off if you wish to keep it.
  9. Posted by Jenn Reed
    Sadly, we will have to euthanize our 15 year old pug "Jazzi" on Tuesday. I have to say that this is definitely one of the hardest things I've ever hard to do. My husband and I bought her as a gift to each other on our honeymoon 15 years ago.. I can't stand the thought of losing her, but I can't stand to see her suffer any longer.
  10. Posted by Kent
    I'm trying to cope with the inevitablity of having to put Shane my 10+ old german shepard to sleep. He has hip dysplasia. I thought once we made it through our cold winters he would physically return normal when the outside temps warmed up. He is such a trooper, he's got to be hurting while on his feet, I hate seeing him like this. I'm having trouble coping with this decision, but I know I want to be there when the time has come.
  11. Posted by anu
    MY vet has suggested that i euthanize my 8.5year old labrador . she has a complete renal failure.it was one of the hardest decision i have ever taken.I have finally realized that this is the best thing i can do for my pet -let it go in peace with dignity!
  12. Posted by Cherie
    Thank you for such a thoughtful site. We have to put down our 7.5 yr old boxer today and this has helped me know how to better handle it and hopefully make it a less traumatic and stressful. I'm a mess and crying as I type this but I've had a good discussion with our wonderful vet who told me we are doing all the right things and asking all the right questions. Our Annie has been a sheer delight from the second she picked out my daughter at the breeders house! We will love and miss her forever.
  13. Posted by Cherie
    Thank you for such a thoughtful site. We have to put down our 7.5 yr old boxer today and this has helped me know how to better handle it and hopefully make it a less traumatic and stressful. I'm a mess and crying as I type this but I've had a good discussion with our wonderful vet who told me we are doing all the right things and asking all the right questions. Our Annie has been a sheer delight from the second she picked out my daughter at the breeders house! We will love and miss her forever.
  14. Posted by Connie
    I just had my 10 1/2 yr old blk lab put to sleep on 10/15/09 and I feel so guilty, I stayed with him now I keep seeing it over and over in my mind and I can't talk about it without crying, I am constantly looking in the yard for him I loved him so much I had him since he was 6 weeks old his name was Midnite he became blind two yrs ago and also had hip pain I had to stay with him at the time of his death but I still feel guilty and so empty what a traumatic experience. I am keeping his ashes and I will put them in a flower garden.
  15. Posted by Kim
    I just put my 13 year old rottweiler, Abby, down last night. I am very sad but I know she left looking into my eyes. She had cancer and was developing other problems. Rather than let her get sicker we decided not to wait and let her die with dignity. I hope it was the right thing to do. It deeply hurts my heart knowing i will never see her baby face again. We will miss her always.
  16. Posted by Melanie
    I am having to face this decision now and am thinking it would be best to euthanize our friend at home because it will be more calm and peaceful. A logistics question that no one has answered here: What happens to the dog's body afterwards? Does the vet usually take care of this?
  17. Posted by Melanie
    This is what happened. I am telling it here in hopes that my account will help others who are facing this difficult decision. The vet and the vet aide came to the house. The vet had known for months that my dog had spinal stenosis and that he was gradually getting weaker and that, at some point, it would be the right time. My dog had spinal stenosis and it had been gradually progressing over the past 2+ years since he was nine despite trying various interventions. So, my sweet guy was lying down in one of his favorite spots and he was comfortable and warm. It was a very simple, quiet procedure and I appreciated that the vet and the aide showed great respect. She quietly injected the barbiturate and within 15-20 sec he simply and quietly passed away. He was very calm and peaceful and totally relaxed throughout, as he had always been as a dog. It appeared to be totally painless. I stayed with him and told him everything was ok and that I loved him very much. I was crying and just accepted that that was ok. I think dogs can accept their owners’ feelings of sadness because they know they are loved and he certainly did. After he passed away, I brought my other dog out to let her know. She initially was paying more attention to the vet and the aide, but at one point she did briefly sniff his toes, and I think that was it for her. Later, when I brought in his blankets, she sniffed them, too. The aide and I gently lifted him onto a stretcher and covered him somewhat with a simple white blanket. The vet and the aide placed the stretcher in their van, I said good-bye once more and gave him a hug, and that was it. I was told I would be able to pick up his ashes at the vet's in a week. What happened has brought up the reality of end-of-life issues for me. I recommend trying to do this at home, if possible. It is much easier on you and the dog because you are both in your own environment. Be sensitive to the right time when the dog is ready to go. That might not be when you are ready. Yes, it is a hassle sometimes, but a dog is a being with a right to live as he wants and for as long as he wants on his own terms. In other words, listen to other people but ultimately listen to your dog— you need to make the decision based on what your dog is telling you. If you know your dog well, he will let you know when that right time has come. It was my responsibility to help him up to then as much as I could. It was also my responsibility to help him as best as I could at the end. I guess that feeling of responsibility is really what helped me to hold it together. Don’t worry, if you need to do it, too, you will find the strength because you love your dog. It’s natural and it’s ok to feel sad, so don’t think you have to be a super human. One thing I noticed when I helped put him on the stretcher was that he seemed totally and completely relaxed and that was a huge comfort and relief to me, as I know it must have been to him.
  18. Posted by BONNIE
    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR DISCRIPTIVE AND LOVING EXPLINATION OF PUTTING YOUR BELOVED FRIEND DOWN. I HAVE A WONDERFUL OLD GREAT DANE "BABY" HE IS NINE YRS OLD AND BLIND BUT HE SEEMS TO BE ABLE TO SEE SHADOWS. I KNOW I'LL HAVE TO MAKE THIS CHOICE ONE DAY SOON. I WAS TOLD EARLY ON WHEN HE WAS A PUP THAT DANES ONLY LIVE ABOUT 7 YRS. I HOPE HE HAS MANY MORE YRS TO COME BUT YOUR LOVELY DESCRIPTION HAS HELPED ME TO THINK OF A LOVING CHOICE I'LL BE NEEDING TO MAKE. THANK YOU.
  19. Posted by Silvia
    We put our sweet and loving 15 year old black lab down on Oct. 23. He had been suffering from arthritis for a couple of years and was having more and more difficulty going for walks, needed our help getting up a couple of stairs to come back into the house, couldn't come upstairs to sleep with us any more even with our help and on that last day was not able to walk more than a couple of inches at a time. Our vet came to the house and gave him a sedative shot ahead of time so that he wouldn't be at all stressed. I stayed with him the whole time and I wouldn't ever do that any different. However, now that it's too late and I've spent the last 8 days crying, I am constantly tormented because he was still so interested in his treats and cuddling with us. I feel like we made a mistake, maybe more or different pain meds might have helped. I am totally overcome with guilt. He trusted me completely and I feel I let him dowm completely.
  20. Posted by Gwen
    I put our 12 year old, 105 pound, yellow lab to sleep on Tuesday night. When he was a puppy, the Vet told us that he probably wouldn't make it past 10 due to his size and joint issues. He had 3 surgeries in his life to help, but Tuesday morning his back 2 legs gave out. I knew in my heart that was the sign, because I had always told family and friends that I would know when I see it. I wish I had read this article and the posts, because it is much harder than I ever imagined. I was so upset at the decision that I didn't even think of "arranging" it. I just made a vet appointment and thanks to God my Vet was there and helped us through it. Silvia, your post said exactly how I feel too: "However, now that it's too late and I've spent the last 8 days crying, I am constantly tormented because he was still so interested in his treats and cuddling with us. I feel like we made a mistake, maybe more or different pain meds might have helped. I am totally overcome with guilt. He trusted me completely and I feel I let him down completely." Wally still had his lab smile and cuddled with our family too. The kids would roll around with him on the floor since he didn't want to get up. The only thing helping me through is that I know my Wally Bear is no longer in pain and I'm hoping he knows I made that decision to keep him from hurting anymore. Please know that you are not alone.
  21. Posted by connie stevens
    Dear Silvia number 19 I know how you are feeling I have now just begun to feel a little better about putting my Lab down the guilt dose ease and the crying still comes because we love our dogs but sometimes we have to think of their feeling and quailty of life I know I was giving Midnite meds twice a day and it was upsetting his stomach after a while but you hang in there he is in heaven playing with Midnite without pain and I know that Midnite has his sight back up there :)

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