How to Create Wellness through Small Positive Experiences
While minor irritants (hassles) can harm both your temperament and your health, creating anger, what about the flip side of that stress-illness relationship? Just as you encounter all kinds of small stresses day to day, you probably also encounter a variety of small positive, uplifting experiences.
Uplifts involve people, events, circumstances, and activities that create in you a sense of joy, hope, optimism, faith, relief, and release — all antidotes to stress. Here are some examples of uplifts you may have in your daily life:
Engaging in regular exercise
Spending time with children
Working on hobbies
Enjoying a beautiful day
Reading for pleasure
Making a new friend
Hearing some good news
Enjoying free time
Giving and receiving love
Smelling pleasant aromas — vanilla, lavender, the smell of fresh bread
Spending time with pets
Contributing to a charity
Doing volunteer work
Uplifts affect you in the opposite way that stress does. Stress expends energy and can lead to a condition known as vital exhaustion, whereas uplifts create energy and revitalize you physically and mentally. Stress irritates your nervous system — hence, its connection to anger. Uplifts have a relaxing effect and release stored-up tension, leaving the door open for feelings of peace, tranquility, and inner harmony.
The more hassles — as well as major stresses — you have in your life at the moment, the more you need to be uplifted. But you can’t rely on the chance that these positive experiences will find you — you have to seek them out, make them happen, go looking for them. You’ll be glad you did. Start by making sure you have at least one uplifting experience each day — no exceptions!
Living an unbalanced life can be painful! Often people who are suffering from chronic, disabling back pain eliminate all the uplifting social and recreational experiences from their lives. They quickly decide to give up having sex, going to church, visiting friends, attending their youngsters’ sporting events — all because of pain.
Yet, strangely enough, even with pain, they continue to complete domestic chores — vacuum, rake leaves, carry in the groceries. No wonder 70 percent of them become clinically depressed. Their lives are lopsided — all they have left are pain and chores.