Ground Rules for a Family Meeting about Eldercare
Part of the Eldercare For Dummies Cheat Sheet
If your family is faced with getting or continuing care for an elderly loved one, a family meeting can be productive in airing issues and concerns and brainstorming solutions. Tips on running a fruitful family conference include those in the following list:
Don't speak for others by saying "we think" or "my family thinks."
Take responsibility for your own opinion or viewpoint by saying, "I think," "I believe," "I understand," and so on.
Don't interrupt anyone.
Encourage everyone (from the youngest to the oldest, from the shyest to the boldest) to express his or her opinion.
Choose a facilitator (for example, the oldest, most respected person).
Encourage family members to share their feelings by accepting all sentiments.
Don't allow blaming and criticizing.
Stop verbal attacks dead in their tracks.