Here are some ways to spread the love you’re feeling (and feel better about spending all that money) as you work your way through planning your wedding:

  • Donate your dress. Wedding Wishing Well Foundation organises weddings for terminally ill people, and Oxfam has several specialist bridal departments across the UK.

  • Register for charity. If you have enough pots and pans, discreetly steer your guests to a website where, in lieu of gifts, they can donate money to your favourite charity. Just Giving, The Alternative Wedding List and Oxfam Unwrapped enable you to create donation registries.

  • Go green. Tree-free invitations, organic food, party favours that help the homeless, eco-tour honeymoons – every aspect of your wedding can make a statement about being environmentally and socially responsible. Green Union helps couples locate like-minded suppliers and offers advice on ways to plan an eco-friendly wedding.